We all get scared. This common feeling connects us, but it can also prevent us from growing, trying, and changing.
What I really want us to think about is the fear of failure. How does that play a part in your life? I decided to write this because I struggle with it myself. I am a perfectionist and, somewhere in my head, there’s a voice that says I need to do my best all the time and I need to do it right! But the fear of failure can keep us from going after our dreams, and it can give us the illusion that perfection is real.
Perfection is not real. I’ve found that the more I relax, trust myself, listen to my instincts, and give it my best try — the better I do. We need to trust that we’re loved and that it’s A-OK to fail sometimes or for things not to turn out the way we planned. It doesn’t make you any less of a person.
Here’s a story I always found really cool. Thomas Edison was interviewed shortly before inventing the lightbulb . The reporter asked Edison why hadn’t he given up on the light bulb idea since he failed 3,000 times before in attempting to make it work. Edison frankly said, “Failed? I have not failed. What I have done is successfully identified 3,000 ways that will not work.” Shortly after that interview, he got it right.
If we change the way we think about ourselves and stop being so afraid of making mistakes or not getting it right, we can try more things…and enjoy those experiences and opportunities more.
We are never going to figure it all out or get everything right. Life is scary…but that’s what makes it exciting. New things happen every day because we’ve never been in this exact moment before. Anything can happen and that can be overwhelming…and inspiring!
It’s just like that old saying our parents love to recite, “You won’t know til’ ya try!”
Know that you are loved and not alone. We are all scared at times, but that’s why we’re all in this together.
TOGETHER we know LOVE IS LOUDER THAN FEAR.
”I know from my own personal experience. I was bullied in middle school and high school and went through my fair share of hard times thereafter. Also, one of my really good friends committed suicide when I was in high school.I understand and get when kids and teenagers feel like they’re alone and it’s not going to get better. My advice is that there is a support system out there, there are a lot of people who have been through what you’re going through and are going through it now. LOVE IS LOUDER!” - Brittany Snow.
We have scars and poetry
to remind us about pain, but
we do not document happiness enough
to remind us of the good things.
Holding on for another day and
getting up to face the world—
these tells us how much we are
defeating uncertainty and sadness.
We are so used to successes
that we do not notice it anymore:
—your heart beating death
again and again—your lungs
never refusing air—your spirit
thriving, despite the limited time.
- Mark Dimaisip